February 28 marked the end of the child support agreement I had with Jason. The last support payment was paid, the ties were finally broken and I was finally free. I relished in this, despite people asking if the “loss” of the child support was going to cause hardship. Of course, the money was helpful, but ending a bond I didn’t want for the last 14 years was so worth it!
A week after the last support payment went into my bank account, I received a card in the mail. It said “Thinking if you” and inside it said “Loosing this money will be difficult, but as you always say, you are a “Survivor”. Good luck. Lorie I had no idea who “Lorie” is and knew no close friend of mine would ever misspell “losing”, so I assumed it was someone from the Steering Committee of my position as Community Navigator trying to be thoughtful because my contract was ending. Weird, but I assumed she was trying to be nice. Later, while in the shower, the penny dropped; holy shit! I knew who “Lorie” is! She is Jason’s partner, a woman who strongly dislikes me and thinks he is a “good person”. I was in disbelief, incredulous and then I was pissed off. Really? You send a sympathy card because child support is no longer going to be paid to your partner’s kids? Is she really so spiteful that she sends a card to me? I couldn’t believe the pettiness! I shared the card on Facebook and it was widely shared. After a few days I realized it was more likely sent by Jason himself, hiding behind Lorie like a shield, knowing he could be accused of harassment. What a coward. What an ass!
Even when our agreement has ended, he still has to inject himself in to my life and try to cause me harm. This is not a man who has changed, who is “good”. This is a man who hates that he lost; his wife, his kids, his control. This is a man whom is still very angry and would no doubt cause further harm to me if given the opportunity.
I moved on and went about my business. I was scheduling for surgery at the end of March and so had far more important matters to think about than Jason and his vindictive nature.
This past week, two of my children received messages from “Lorie” telling them to watch a Dr. Phil episode that had aired a couple weeks before. Again, the grammar and spelling was terrible. The messages said, “What do you have to loose?” God, I cannot believe I was married to that man… so stupid. Him, not me.
The kids showed me the messages and asked what I thought. I think they were nervous because a few years ago, Jason had tried to trick me and my eldest daughter in to goingnon the Dr. Phil show. I think they were concerned that he may have gone on the show after all. We looked up the episode, read the synopsis and then had a good laugh. It was about an abusive man trying to prove his wife had brainwashed his children in to thinking that they and their mother were abused. I am sure to Jason, this episode struck a chord as he will still tell anyone who will listen how I manipulated the judicial system and brainwashed my kids into to believing they were assaulted and abused by him.
My daughter replied to the message with a scathing reply. Ending with “Has he touched your kid yet?” Jason and Lorie have a son together, and my kids have always had concern for his safety and well-being, My son retweeted the twitter message Lorie sent to him quoting it and adding comments that were both insightful and concise. If you won’t admit your wrong doing, how can you expect forgiveness? Though, Jason never asked for forgiveness from the kids. He told them they were liars and that none of the abuse they suffered actually happened.
Fourteen years after I left our abusive marriage, Jason still thinks he has the right to inject himself in to our lives, stir up trouble and take shots at me. A few years ago, this kind of thing would have triggered PTSD episodes and I would be feeling anxious and agitated. But, years of intensive therapy, I am no longer so easily triggered. Now, I am just shaking my head at his desperation. He once told me he lived his life “in peace and harmony most of the time”. This behaviour does not support that claim, but perhaps it’s just some of the time that he still thinks about me and how I escaped his control. I feel sorry for Jason. And his partner, Lorie. He cannot be living a fulfilling life if he is still so angry. And I wonder if she has any idea he is using her name to come after me. If she does, then they definitely deserve each other. I just hope that they are finally done with me and my kids and will get on with living their own life and stop trying to interfere with mine.